ABOUT
A gentle place to do real work, at your pace.
KAT LAFEVER
BASED
Philadelphia, PA
WORKING
Online, anywhere
LANGUAGES
English
PRONOUNS
She / they
The short version.
I'm an autism and ADHD consultant and executive functioning coach. I work primarily with neurodivergent and queer adults navigating life transitions — the in-between places where the old strategies stop working and the new ones haven't shown up yet.
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I'm also autistic, queer, and live with chronic illness. None of that is a credential. It's the reason I do this work the way I do it.
What I actually do.
Coaching with me looks less like a session and more like a series of practical conversations. We name the thing. We break it into pieces small enough for your nervous system to actually pick up. We notice what works for your brain — not the brain a productivity book was written for.
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Sometimes that's executive functioning support: starting tasks, finishing tasks, the gap in between. Sometimes it's identity work: what late diagnosis means, what to keep, what to grieve. Sometimes it's strategy: how to ask for accommodations, how to leave the job, how to tell your family. Often it's all of those at once.
Why I do it.
I spent a long time trying to be functional in ways that weren't built for me. I masked. I burned out. I assumed every system was right and I was the broken part. The diagnosis didn't fix anything by itself — what helped was finding people who knew the terrain and weren't afraid of it.
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That's what I'm trying to be on the other side of the screen.
My training, briefly.
My background is in psychology and women's, gender, and sexuality studies, with a Master of Social Work in progress. My goal is to become a licensed clinician (LCSW). I just completed a two-year LEND fellowship in neurodevelopmental disabilities at Stony Brook, and I've worked in research at Marcus Autism Center and Weill Cornell Medicine — research strongly informs and directs how I practice.
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I also hold a trauma-sensitive yoga certification, which I bring into sessions with clients who want a gentle way to build mindfulness and mind-body connection. Until I'm licensed, I work as a consultant and coach — not a psychotherapist. I'm happy to walk through what that distinction means for us on a discovery call, and to refer out when therapy is the right call.
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I'm from rural Appalachia, and the outdoors is where I'm most at home. That's stitched into how I want this work to feel — gentle, slow when it needs to be, made of real materials.